Author: Angila Myles-Banks
Oh, hey there!
I’ve suddenly found myself increasingly busy these past few months. Work/Life balance seems to be more of a luxury than a priority but in true Angila style I just seem to adapt.
I’m always been one to challenge the norm and conformity has never been a virtue for me, so finding a way to be true to myself in a tactful manner has been somewhat of a challenge lately. Not wanting to come off as the “Angry Black Woman” I find it easier to distance myself and observe the career that I’ve grown to love for the past 9 years make its own evolution with a gentle nudge from the universe encouraging me to do the same.
I’m blessed. I am a writer, motivational speaker, interior decorator, matchmaker, loving dog mom, mother, wife, homie, lover, friend and so much more. Oftentimes we know our gifts and talents but the societal norm is conformity; everyone doing the same thing without understanding why. This year I promised myself that I would step outside of my comfort zone to live more authentically; whatever it takes and I can tell more and more, with each passing day, that my higher self is holding me to my promise. There’s a saying that goes, “life begins at the end of your comfort zone” and I’m experiencing it the more I challenge myself.
I’ve been told that I’m easy to talk to and that my spirit is uplifting and comforting. I’m so blessed to work with nearly 300 people who have taught me just as much about myself as I’ve taught them over the years. They’ve confided in me their goals, successes, failures, and fears, allowing me to tap into my higher self or God self within and be whatever they need in that moment and I can tell you that in those moments, I’m fulfilled. Nothing compares to that feeling as my heart fills with love and joy doing what I love most…telling people what to do!
While people may come to me for answers, I don’t have it all figured out either! We’re all on this wonderful life journey defining and redefining ourselves every day and should begin to “seek 1st the kingdom of heaven” which is within each of us, for the answers we need. By getting into the habit of going within to your own personal heaven, everything else will be “added to you”.
Orange You Glad to See Me?
I had a fashionista weekend celebrating my mom and sister’s birthdays on 1/24 & 1/25. My outfits were flirty and chic, pairing pieces and accessories together to make the fashion statement I was hoping for!
On Friday my sister Michelle and I made last minute plans to go to Chapman and Kirby, an upscale “gastropub” in downtown Houston offering American fare and live entertainment after 10PM. Unfortunately we arrived after 10PM and the kitchen was closed but were fortunate to grab a bite to eat at Rodeo Goat, a hamburger restaurant next door that was open until 12AM.
During dinner, our cousin Tiffany joined the “party” with just enough time to scarf down the other half of my sister’s Beyond Burger and make it to the Burlesque show happening at 11PM. We had a great time ordering drinks and taking pictures and was later joined by another friend, Denise, who brightens up any room with her bubbly personality!
We ended our night around 12:30AM but not before snagging a huge, balloon backdrop which we ASSumed would be a great addition to the party decor for the following night. We tipped the bartender all the cash we had ($15) to take it off of her hands and carefully divided the backdrop that was held together with fishing wire, into 3 pieces to ensure it would fit into 3 vehicles.
Saturday night we would celebrate my mother’s “60ish” birthday with a surprise party. She had mentioned she wanted to go to a club called the Red Rooster known for its soulful music, electric crowd, dancing, and people watching. We were able to reserve the last available party section 2 weeks prior to the party and set out to make it happen. We downplayed the night’s events about a week before the party, stating we would be going to dinner. On the day of the party I decided we should tell her we were going to the Red Rooster but not disclose others were coming. She had changed her mind and preferred dinner instead of dancing at this point. My sister took her to dinner while myself and my husband Shelby went to the club to set up. This is where the balloon backdrop fiasco was a FAIL! The section had to wall so there was no place to put it. On top of that, by the time we arrived the club was packed as I drug in 50 or more balloons of various sizes, through the crowd! Shelby took the balloons back to the car and we set up the food which consisted of Wingstop, potato salad, fruit and vegetable trays, shrimp cocktail and cupcakes.
Mom arrived around 10PM and exactly at the same time as her party guests! She was surprised and elated as more guests arrived. Overall we had an amazing night living, laughing, and loving each other!
I pride myself on evolution. There’s nothing cute about being the same person year after year, month after month or even day after day. Each day I have the freedom to choose who I’d like to be, effortlessly decide to become that version of myself until eventually, I’m that person. It’s just that simple! And I have to mention that the journey to becoming a better you is nothing short of amazing…if you choose to see it from that perspective. There’ll be the usual trials and tribulations that are intended to help mold our character into the people we’ve asked to be but these challenges cause us to step out of our comfort zones and ultimately into our destiny.
I’ve always been selfishly true to myself; to thine own self be true. This year I’ll be 40 and have decided that I’m going to embrace the next chapter of my life Kim Kardashian/Beyonce style! Beyonce has 3 children and Kim has 4. Kim will be 40 3 days after I turn 40 and Beyonce will be 40 in 2021. I also have 3 children who will be 19, 17, and 10 this year…no excuses!
I’ve concluded there is no reason for me to enter the next phase of my life, conforming to society’s interpretation of a woman in her 40s..why MUST I be regular! I’m taking sexy to a new level, mastering and utilizing my many talents, and am determined to make an impact on the world! This era, I am committed to making smarter decisions, spending more time reflecting, being open minded, traveling, and continuing to follow my truth.
Because I have been able to recreate myself year after year, I get to decide what my 40s will entail…and that vision is grand! Always remember you have the power to choose who you would like to be. I encourage you to stretch beyond your comfort zone and imagine what life would be like as the better version of you…then GO FOR IT!
A Chain Reaction
I was too busy to even think about taking photos today but because I had gotten so many compliments on what I thought was a simple look, I decided it was worth sharing!
Skirt: DD’s Discount
Belt: Fashion Nova
Wig: Sensationnel Anya color #1
Feminine power is silent, dark, mysterious, healing, and nurturing. A woman can walk into a room and own it. She doesn’t even have to open her mouth if she knows where her power is. – Ayanla Vanzant
About Last Night…
My name is Angila and I’m a Blaxican. I’m almost certain that I was a Mexican 👑 in my past life because I absolutely adore all things Mexican! With their love of food, friends, and family, Hispanic culture is second to none. I have several latinas I call friend but my friends Jessica and Nancy are friends turned family ❤❤.
Nancy exposed me to the true definition of having a Mexican family when we met at work 16 years ago. Forming an almost immediate bond, she invited me to one of her children’s birthday parties where her friends and family welcomed me as their own. There was plenty of food, great music, and LOTS of beer as a children’s party gradually became an adult party! I went on to attend several parties in following years, deepening my connection to the culture.
My friend Jessica and I bonded over our love/borderline obsession with food. Jessica taught me the how to make all of the Mexican food favorites I’m known for such as shredded chicken for tacos, the BEST ground beef that’s perfect for tostadas and my all time favorite, posole rojo. I’m pretty sure there’s more but those happen to be high on my foodie list.
Last night’s dinner was supposed to be beef fajita tacos and tostadas but ended up being just being tacos. I was simply too tired to do more. Fortunately I took time to prepare a simple marinade for the skirt steak that morning before going to work, reducing the amount of time in the kitchen that evening.
When I arrived home, I simply diced the steak into 1/4 inch pieces and seared in a cast iron skillet about 12 minutes, until lightly charred.
While the meat cooked to perfection, I chopped some white onion, cilantro and lime. One the meat was done, I cooked several white corn tortillas in a bit of vegetable oil as a final step before assembling the tacos. I picked up a new hot sauce from rotel that paired perfectly with the tacos!
I admit that Chinese food is not my forte and Mexican food has yet to let me down!
adiós mi familia!
Chinese (in the) New Year!
I woke up an hour early, at 5:22AM, and KNEW I was eating China Cottage for dinner. China Cottage is hands down the BEST Chinese restaurant in Houston…#letsargue 😂. Their food is amazing, and they’re prompt, friendly, and professional. Having found them online 6 years ago while randomly searching for Chinese food near my job, it was love at 1st bite! After trying nearly every item on the menu, I finally found my favorite; General Tso’s chicken, extra spicy, no soup, and a pork eggroll instead of the complementary vegetable eggroll. In no time, I was walking around the office of 200+ people, calling in 20-40 separate orders DAILY…OUT OF CONTROL!🤣 Fortunately for us, the Director at the time, Carie, loved China Cottage as well and didn’t fuss too much as I was multitasking as a waiter lol!
These days, I’m far too busy to even place an order for myself, let alone a group so on my way home, I placed an order for cheese puffs, pork eggrolls, and General Tso’s SAUCE…that’s right, I said sauce! I already had 2 chicken breasts thawing in the fridge and figured alternatively, I could just DIY my favorite Chinese dish instead.
I arrived at China Cottage and am immediately greeted with hugs from the owner and her husband. Since I typically order online, it’s usually a celebration whenever I stop in, usually 2 or 3 times a year. We catch up and discuss how well business has been going since we began patronizing them years ago. We hug once more and then I leave with my small order with the hopes of recreating my Chinese favorite.
I arrive home 40 minutes later and as usual, set my bags on the island and begin preparing the meal for my greedy yet grateful family.
Keeping weeknight meals simple is crucial. Often arriving home at 7pm, I prefer dinner to be served in 30-45 minutes making this an ideal meal! I already had some frozen vegetable fried rice which I sauteed in a bit of oil, added scrambled egg, some green and white onion, and a few broccoli florets…done.
I chopped the chicken and dredged in flour seasoned with only salt and pepper not wanting to compromise the flavor of my General Tso’s sauce. I deep fried the chicken in 2 batches and drained on paper towels.
Overall, the food was good but definitely not China Cottage. Although I enjoyed my culinary experience, I’ll just leave the General Tso’s to the experts and stick to my personal expertise…MEXICAN!
Black Is in Fashion!
Shout out to my sister for truly capturing the moment!